Quoting Arelor, who said to mseifert <-(:

Re: Re: BBS People
By: mseifert to Arelor on Sat Feb 06 2021 07:53 pm

Hey, I get it.. I was both a victim of peer pressure and bullyinhg as a kid

There is this idea that mean people is mean because they lack a solid social foundation.

I don't buy that theory.

I agree that some parents don't take an active enough part in raising their children not to be a problem, and some times it's because the kid is too much of an hassle and sometimes they just don't care. In either case they shouldn't be parents because they're also the first to complain when little Hitler junior (ok to say, my family is from Germany) comes home with an injury because his victim finally snaps.

People reaffirms their group identity by both scoring points within
their own social group and trashing outsiders. Kids are no different.
If there is group with a heavy identity (think "gang like") they are
going to have a solid social network (the gang) and their mean actions
are going to be driven by the fact they are acceptable for the gang.

You can see this principle at work in the workplace for that matter.

I have a bit of a problem when people starts worrying their kids are
not going to socialize because oftentimes, this people is the sort of people who believes that educating kids means letting "society" educate them. Which means letting them loose in the school or park to their own whims. Let's face it, parents have been waaaay more lazy than they used
to be in the 90s. They want a well-behaved kid without having to put
work into it so they delude themselves into thinking "the system" will
do the work for them.

Then kid goes back home with a stab wound because he pushed some nerd
past the breaking point or whatever, and it is deemed society's
failure.

Geeeeez, modern schools make me long for General Franco's military
camps for kids.

thanks.

Mark.


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